Transparency is simply the condition of being transparent.
When we speak or read about transparency (or the lack thereof) we do so subconsciously thinking about discrepancies between the degree of the truth presented, and the extent of the reality to which it will be experienced (e.g., how transparent a person is).
When we speak or read about transparency (or the lack thereof) we do so subconsciously thinking about discrepancies between the degree of the truth presented, and the extent of the reality to which it will be experienced (e.g., how transparent a person is).
When these truths and realities are difficult to discern, or the message gets distorted, the clarity of the transparency becomes questionable. This is really what we are eluding to when we speak of a person being transparent; a person whose message and communication is consistent with both truthfulness and intent.
Unfortunately, the truth is subjective. Because we tend to edit the truth to make it more digestible, the truth can take on different forms and versions; thus creating the illusion of transparency, when in fact, vital details are concealed that compromise the clarity of the transparency.
In order to be truly transparent, one has to be vulnerable. We all have difficulty being vulnerable; revealing one's history, thoughts, emotions, and intentions is not easy, but necessary to connect with others.
In business, and in life, where relationships define and reward us, transparency is based upon ability - not willingness. Vulnerability is an ability. Like anything that is practiced, it becomes easier. Determining the motivation behind the practice is not as easy. After all, why would anyone suddenly start the habit of offering insights into their inner thoughts or intentions when they are not accustomed to doing so?
The answer correlates with the level of intimacy (or lack of intimacy) one seeks in their relationships. Socially, we all have an intimacy threshold that we are comfortable with, and conversely, uncomfortable with. Acceptance and vulnerability run parallel; we are always thinking how much of our true selves, true thoughts, true feelings, or true intentions we can reveal without being rejected.
Fear of rejection presents the greatest threat to transparency.
This holds true in life and in business. When you find a person not being transparent, you are really finding a person who fears rejection. The real question is why do they feel they may be rejected? The need for acceptance runs deep; it speaks to our greater need to have a sense of belonging. Being vulnerable puts that acceptance at risk, causing us to manufacture and market a more palatable version of the truth, or create smokescreens to conceal the real truths.
It's important that we not only become more transparent, but also learn when it most behooves us to be transparent. In situations where trust, credibility, and the opportunity for real intimacy are on the line, transparency is vital for leaders and lovers alike. When intentions for being transparent are clear, the rewards far outweigh the risks.
In order to be truly transparent, one has to be vulnerable. We all have difficulty being vulnerable; revealing one's history, thoughts, emotions, and intentions is not easy, but necessary to connect with others.
In business, and in life, where relationships define and reward us, transparency is based upon ability - not willingness. Vulnerability is an ability. Like anything that is practiced, it becomes easier. Determining the motivation behind the practice is not as easy. After all, why would anyone suddenly start the habit of offering insights into their inner thoughts or intentions when they are not accustomed to doing so?
The answer correlates with the level of intimacy (or lack of intimacy) one seeks in their relationships. Socially, we all have an intimacy threshold that we are comfortable with, and conversely, uncomfortable with. Acceptance and vulnerability run parallel; we are always thinking how much of our true selves, true thoughts, true feelings, or true intentions we can reveal without being rejected.
Fear of rejection presents the greatest threat to transparency.
This holds true in life and in business. When you find a person not being transparent, you are really finding a person who fears rejection. The real question is why do they feel they may be rejected? The need for acceptance runs deep; it speaks to our greater need to have a sense of belonging. Being vulnerable puts that acceptance at risk, causing us to manufacture and market a more palatable version of the truth, or create smokescreens to conceal the real truths.
It's important that we not only become more transparent, but also learn when it most behooves us to be transparent. In situations where trust, credibility, and the opportunity for real intimacy are on the line, transparency is vital for leaders and lovers alike. When intentions for being transparent are clear, the rewards far outweigh the risks.
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